Eventhough people might constantly ask you how you are doing, do they actualy listen?
People seem to spit their solutions (with the best intentions) before you are even finished trying to find the words to make your first sentence. You are defenatly not looking forward to waist more energy to explain everything it all over again. You also don’t feel like defending yourself over and over again for your feelings. Maybe you feel so many different emotions at the same time that everything just blocks as in a short circuit? Or maybe you do understand evrything on a rational level, but somehow your emotions do not coincide? Or maybe… probably most likely:
Your story is totally different and I should just shut up and listen?!
So ok, tell me, I am willing to listen !
Deeply hidden between all the noise of your explanations, your statements, and your words we can find your real story. Maybe you feel some of your real feelings should never be spoken out loud, they are way too horrible, too illogical, too complicated, too childish, too inappropriate or too contradictory. Sometimes you don’t have names for the feelings you experience or maybe you are unable to recognize which feelings they are, because they are so too deeply entangled to be recognized.
Feelings unspoken will continuously try to seek recognition and attention. Not being recognitized, they will start to shout harder and harder for attention untill they explode like a continously inflated balloon. This will be expressed diffrently in evryone, but the explosion feels almost unbearable, and will leave scars that will take a very long time to heal.
Therefore, I think it’s important that there is a place where all your feelings can express exactly who they are: self-criticism, disappointment, frustration, despair, fear, sexuality, guilt, shame, your constant restlessness, your pain and many more. Paying attention to all those feelings can help to prevent that terrible explosion.
Speaking your mind can sometimes just bring you that little bit of air you need to be able to get back on track
We will continue to tune in to find the method that suits you best at the time. And sometimes that means you will only come to speak your mind. Sometimes seeing your story through my eyes creates the exact distance you need to see clearly. The resulting overview gives insight and the distance gives air. It can just give that bit of hope that you need to be self-reliant, to further develop yourself.
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